Death is never an easy topic to talk about. If someone you know is dealing with the loss of a loved one, it is appropriate to send a letter or card expressing your sympathy for their pain.

While there are no words adequate enough to express sorrow for a loss, a brief condolence message can mean a great deal to the recipient during the mourning period.

How to Write a Meaningful Condolence Message

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Keep the condolence message short, refer to the deceased by name and share personal experiences when appropriate. These tips and general guidelines below will help you create a meaningful and appropriate sympathy message.

Follow these guidelines to show respect for the recipient’s time and emotional wellbeing:

  1. Acknowledge the loss of the deceased.
  2. Express your condolences or sorrow for the recipient’s loss.
  3. Share a brief memory of the deceased (if applicable).
  4. Include a thoughtful wish to end the note.

Condolences for the Loss of a Mother

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The pain caused by the loss of a mother can be overwhelming. Use these simple messages to craft a heartfelt condolence that will comfort the recipient during their mourning.

  • Your mother is with you always, first in her lifetime, then in your memory forever.
  • Moms hold a special place in our heart –– (name) will be with you always.
  • Extending my sincere condolences for the loss of your mother and thinking of you during this difficult period in your life.
  • Mothers are the most significant figures in our lives. (Name) loved you unconditionally and will always be near.
  • (Name) was an incredible woman who held a special place in my heart. Please know I’m a phone call away if you need anything.  
  • To lose a mother is to lose the lighthouse that guides you through darkness, but (name) will always watch over you and protect you.

Condolences for the Loss of a Father

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Fathers are such powerful figures in our lives, so their passing can be especially difficult for their children. Express your sympathies and love with help from these messages.

  • Dads are symbols of strength and warmth to their children –– (name) shared these traits with everyone who knew him.
  • Never has a more kind and loving man than (name) graced with world with his presence. He will be missed by us all.
  • In this time of loss, please accept my heartfelt condolences for the loss of your father.  
  • Fathers may pass but their hopes, dreams and lessons live on in us forever.
  • (Name) gave so much love and kindness to everyone in his life. I am so sorry to hear of his passing and your loss.
  • Expressing my deepest sympathies for the loss of your wonderful father. (Name) was very dear to me and will be missed.

Condolences for the Loss of a Child

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It is said that a parent should never go through the pain of losing a child. These condolence messages can help you express your sorrow in a meaningful and appropriate way.

  • It is said there is nothing more painful than the loss of a child. We are right beside you during this time of heartache.
  • There are no words to express the darkness brought on by the loss of (name). Extending my deepest condolences and wishing you a peaceful heart.
  • I have been so blessed by the contagious joy (name) brought to everyone (he/she) knew. Praying for your comfort and peace.
  • The loss of a child is more heartbreak than should be possible. Sending my love and prayers to you and your family.
  • Words aren’t enough, so know that I’m a phone call away. Here for you always.
  • Truly sorry for the loss of (name). There was no happier spirit in this world –– (he/she) will be missed deeply.

Condolences for the Loss of a Pet

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Our pets are the best companions in our lifetimes. Here are some messages you can use when someone you know has lost a furry friend.

  • I am so sorry to know that (pet name) has passed on. The joy (he/she) brought to us all will always be in our hearts.
  • Losing a pet causes indescribable heartache. Thinking of you and your family during this time.
  • Our pets never really leave us. They become our guardian angels to watch over us.
  • Thinking of you as you mourn (pet name). (He/She) was a true joy and manifestation of unconditional love.”
  • Losing a true friend like (pet name) is never easy. Sending my love and thoughts to you.
  • So sorry to hear about the passing of (pet name). Such a loyal friend will always be by your side.

Short Condolence Quotes

Finding the right words to express sympathy can be challenging. Using a quote or saying can help you appropriately send your condolences.

  • “Like a bird singing in the rain, let grateful memories survive in time of sorrow.” – Robert Louis Stevenson
  • “It is not length of life, but depth of life.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • “There is no greater sorrow than to recall happiness in times of misery.” – Dante
  • “A human life is a story told by God.” – Hans Christian Andersen
  • Unable are the loved to die, for love is immortality.” – Emily Dickinson
  • “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” – Gandhi

While death is a painful subject, sending a quick note or meaningful gift to show your love and support can mean the world to someone going through loss.



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